OK, since this was my first post here I did not expect the conversation to get so lively. I appreciate every single input. I thought my initial request was simple and clear with the words “non-tech” and “family members” but for the curious I will expand a bit.
For starters of course I am the “sys-admin” of my families tech life, my main personal PC is not Windows based but every member of my family is because every flavor of Linux I have convinced a family member to try has resulted in utter failure for them, sad but true.
They like the simple UI over the Windows firewall because I had no success trying to get them to understand/use the built-in windows version “Easy” to block per-process out/in traffic “Easy” to block ALL traffic, etc… Having them understand/use traffic blocking at the app level has made all of them much safer/smarter users. I start them with almost everything locked down, they open/monitor what they use, nobody shares a PC so this works perfect.
and finally for me, I needed Open Source so I can inspect the code for any tomfoolery, make any custom changes needed/wanted, and compile on my own. Free is never a requirement, I will always support the devs of software I end up using.
Thanks again for all the input, I read and followed everything, I was not planning on this much TMI but felt it warranted after reading the responses.
Apparently we have all fragged each other at some time in the past because 14+ years ago I used to live on the AssaultCube servers, I was in competing clans and an admin on dozens of servers. Good times, I miss them.
But AssaultCube was just the frag scene at that time, before that it was DoD and before that it was the granddaddy of them all Team Fortress, not the modern TF2, the original that was included on the Half-Life 1 CD, that community was huge and very family like, does anybody here remember the website/community TheVille?
To answer OP’s question, your only luck for real live human players (not bots) and non-cheaters is to find a small community of die-hards as mentioned above. If they don’t let you in after proving to them your not a Llama then they are A-holes anyway and not worth your effort.