What issues are you having with your reverse proxy? Home Assistant is light-years ahead of any other option

Is it still aimed primarily at HDDs or does it have SSD utilities now? As I understand it, most of its wiping methods are/we’re geared toward HDDs

For Frigate especially, you are going to want to use multiple Coral TPUs to handle inferencing. I really can’t speak to the CPU requirements but I know a lot of people like using the Intel NUCs with mic tier processors.