Coming back super later to this, and I agree with your sentiment. Thanks for explaining :) I tried Anytype but the fact that pages are not plain text files is bothering me (I think obsidian kind of spolied me). If you settle on obsidian, for project management in obsidian I tweaked this https://github.com/duoani/obsidian-gtd (not my repo, the js scripts need a small update iirc), which was what I was looking for in a project management system.
I am still waiting for https://silverbullet.md to mature a little bit more and I’ll try to switch to it (foss+obsidian like many useful features as core plugins)
I sound like a broken record but check also https://silverbullet.md
It should check all of your boxes + it has local files like obsidian (which is why I love it), and the main dev is very active both on discord and forum.